Sometimes it takes a painful situation to make us change our ways. Many people experience regret after breaking up with the person they cherished so many happy moments with. It does happen that when two people go their separate ways they begin to realize how much they want their paths to cross again. So if you feel that parting ways was a rash decision and you are ready to work hard on the relationship, there may still be a ray of hope for getting back together.
There is no sure shot success formula for winning back you ex. But the below six points will definitely guide you on your journey of making your ex falling for you all over again.
1.Touch on the past
Before you begin your attempts of wooing back your ex, it is important analyze the reason for the split. Ponder on the below questions and try to be as honest as possible.
- What was the reason for the break up?
- Where did things go wrong in the relationship?
If you have done things to strain the relationship, it is time to take ownership for it. Admit your mistakes and be prepared to give a heartfelt apology to you ex. Think about what you would do differently when you get back together and ensure you want to be together again for the right reasons.
2.Follow the no contact rule
Break ups are painful. Therefore it is important to give each other time to get over the negative emotions. Take a break and do not contact your ex. This will give your ex the time to miss you. You will also benefit from the no contact period. It will give you space and time to re-evaluate if getting back is in your best interests.
Use this period to make positive changes in your life. Begin to appreciate life and choose to be a happy person. This will definitely help your ex to see the new you and may make all the difference between winning or losing them.
3.Go Slow
If you want to win back your ex you have to accept the fact that it will not happen overnight. Do not bombard you ex with a stream of text messages and calls. Every time you do this you are showing your ex how needy and miserable you are without them. This is very unattractive and will push your ex father away. Do not use self pity to gain brownie points from your ex. You may feel that showering them with more love and affection will do the trick but instead your ex may feel smothered and trapped.
Therefore go slow and allow your ex to start loving and respecting you again.
4.Be calm and enjoy your life
After a break up, it is but natural for you to be all messed up. But these feelings of sadness coupled low self confidence will only hurt your chances of winning back your ex. Therefore get on with life. Put yourself in a new environment with new people and take your mind off from all the negative energy. This will help you to recover fast.
Use the break up period to teach yourself how to have a life of your own. Take up a hobby or learn a new skill. This will help you gain perspective and also guide you to be the best version of yourself.
5.Take care of yourself
Your ex chose you among the rest because they were attracted to you. So why not take it a step further and make him/her fall for you all over again. Making positive changes in your appearance will give you a fresh and vibrant look. Try the following tips to give yourself a makeover.
- A trendy hairstyle will instantly give you a brand new look.
- Hit the gym and sweat it out. This will not only get your body in shape but also boost your mental health because exercising reduces stress and makes you happy.
- Buy yourself new clothes because if you look good, you feel good too.
Apart from taking care of your physical well being it is also essential to take care for your mental health too. Being happy and confident is essential to win back your ex. Socialize with your friends and family who will always be with you and love you. Unwind and do things that put you in a better place.
6.Re-engage with your ex.
This is the moment you have been waiting for a long time. After maintaining no contact for a while, your ex will slowly begin to forget the ugly details and remember the small little things that attracted them to you. This is the ideal time to make contact with your ex.
In the era of digital technology, a hand written letter stands out and makes a lasting impression. The letter can be used as a means of mending broken hearts and it also sets the stage for the grand face to face meeting.
Follow up the letter with a short personal text message. If you use the correct words, the message can evoke a sense of excitement in your ex. Keep the texting positive and fun and do not hint at getting back together now. Take things slow and when you feel the time is right, casually ask him/her out.
If you have worked on yourself during the no communication period, you will be brimming with confidence which your ex will find very attractive. While on the date it is best to avoid conversation about the break up as it will do no good. That relationship has ended and if the two of you get back, it will be the start of a brand new relationship.
While you may be eagerly waiting to get back to those lazy Sunday mornings together, it is important treat the date as a new acquaintance you want to get close to. Therefore give it time and allow your ex to see the brand new you!
